Widower: EMBRACE OR ESCAPE THE HOLIDAYS?

One of my mantras as a widower is: “It will never be the same again!” This is never more obvious than during the holidays. Because holiday memories are so unforgettable and because they are so important to the family as a unit, the loss of your wife just makes these days especially difficult to deal with. COVID 19 has only compounded the problems.

Widower Self Help, Widower Relationships, Widower Grief ExperienceFred ColbyNovember 17, 2020Fred Colby, AuthorWidower Families, Widower blogs, widower embracing grief, widower grief Comments

Widower: Maid, Cook, Concubine or Wife?

How do we know that our new friend is the “right one”?

In our messed-up psycho-emotional state it is so easy to make a bad decision and have our feelings dictated by wrong motives. It is easy to think that we want to marry this wonderful new woman we just met. (I know this from personal experience.)

Widower Relationships, Widower Self HelpFred ColbySeptember 22, 2020Fred Colby, AuthorWidower Health, widower grief, Widower’s syndrome, Grieving, Healing Grief, widower building new relationshipsComment

Widower: Brothers in Grief

We feel so isolated and alone when we begin our grief journey. Not only do we believe no one can understand what we are going through, but we feel unable or unwilling to convey what we are going through to others. Finding our Brothers in Grief often helps widowers to get through this worst of times.

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Widower: Rejecting false gods

Whether you believe in God, Allah, Yahweh, or a spiritual universe, you probably have heard the phrase, “Don’t bow down to false gods.” When we are grieving, many false gods may tempt us and drag us into a pit of despair…

Widower Grief Experience, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyJuly 28, 2020Fred Colby, AuthorWidower’s syndrome, Widower Health, Blogs for widowers, How to heal after a spouse dies, widower loneliness, Widower Isolation Comments

Widower: Self-Isolation – What Now With COVID-19??

If you are a recent widower, this blog is for you!

Widowers often are advised to avoid self-isolation. It is harmful to our physical and mental health…. But now we are being forced to isolate-in-place due to COVID–19. So, how the hell are we supposed to heal now??

Fred ColbyMarch 21, 2020Widower, widower grief, Grieving, Bereavement, Healing Grief, Widower Isolation Comment

Widower: Counseling – Religious or Secular?

Shortly after my wife of 45 years passed in 2015, I found myself in the deepest pit of despair. I knew that I was in trouble and I could not find the answers all by myself. So, I asked myself, “Where can I go for help?” “Do I turn to a church for help? Or, do I turn to secular organizations for help?” For me the answer was made easier by…

Widower Self HelpFred ColbyMarch 10, 2020Fred Colby, AuthorWidower, widower grief, how to help a grieving widower, Widower and religion, Widower therapyComment

A New Widower's Challenge on Mother's Day

Like me, many new widowers may find themselves minus both their wife and mother on a Mother’s Day. In my case, my wife passed in 2015 and my mom in 2017, almost exactly two years apart. …

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