LIVING IN THE PAST?

When we first enter deep grieving after losing our wives, we desperately try to hold on to her. This can include (as it did for me) going through all the old photos, slides, and mementos to try and keep her close. This leads us to continue living in the past, and not engaging in the present… or future.

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Emotions, Widower Grief, Widower Grief Experience, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyApril 13, 2026Fred Colby, Authorhealing grief, Behavior of a widower, Coping with death of wife, depression, Bereavement, What is a widower experiencing?, widowers asking for helpComment

Kafka's Doll - Processing Grief

Famous writer, Franz Kafka, once encountered a little girl in the park where he went walking daily. She was crying. She had lost her doll and was desolate…

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Grief Experience, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyDecember 21, 2025Fred Colby, Authorhealing grief, Coping with complicated grief, Widower’s syndrome, How to heal after a spouse dies, Bereavement, Coping with death of wife Comment

ESCAPING TO CONFRONT YOUR GRIEF

As I sit here on the deck of a beautiful cabin set in Colorado’s White National Forest, I cannot help but think back to my visit here ten years ago, almost to the day. That visit was about ten days after my wife had passed after a six-month battle with uterine cancer.

I was not in a good mental or emotional place then,…

Widower Grief, Widower, Widower Grief Experience, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyJuly 7, 2025Fred Colby, AuthorStages of grief, Bereavement, Coping with death of wife, Death of Spouse, healing grief Comments

IS SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS POSSIBLE AGAIN??

Don’t feel alone if you are thinking that you will NEVER be happy again… much less able to be successful again in important areas of your life. After losing your wife, life just does not seem to be worth living anymore.

However, immersing yourself in grief after your wife dies is unavoidable….

Widower, Widower Grief, Widower Relationships, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyJune 9, 2025Fred Colby, Authorhealing grief, Bereavement, Coping with death of wife, how to help a grieving widower, Idealization of spouse, male widowComment

ANGRY AND GRATEFUL AT THE SAME TIME?

Just try to be angry and grateful at the same time. Hard, isn’t it?

It is difficult because the focus on one interferes with your ability to do the other…

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Grief Experience, Widower RelationshipsFred ColbySeptember 18, 2023Fred Colby, AuthorStages of grief, healing grief, Behavior of a widower, overcoming widower isolation, BereavementComment

Widower: Self-Isolation – What Now With COVID-19??

If you are a recent widower, this blog is for you!

Widowers often are advised to avoid self-isolation. It is harmful to our physical and mental health…. But now we are being forced to isolate-in-place due to COVID–19. So, how the hell are we supposed to heal now??

Fred ColbyMarch 21, 2020Widower, widower grief, Grieving, Bereavement, Healing Grief, Widower Isolation Comment

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