Widowers, you can’t think your way out of this one!

Usually our analytical brains put our IQ (abstract reasoning, memory, and problem-solving) to work to solve whatever new challenge we are facing. But when we lose our wives, these old standbys fail us. Instead we have to turn to our Emotional Intelligence (EQ) to make some sense out of our scary new reality… BUT, we often find our EQ is woefully inadequate because of years of neglect.

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Emotions, Widower Grief Experience, Widower Relationships, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyJune 22, 2026Fred Colby, AuthorAI and Therapy, Behavior of a widower, Coping with death of wife, Deep grieving, healing grief, Stages of grief, How to heal after a spouse dies, overcoming widower isolation, widower problemsComment

NEGATIVITY BIAS

When things are going badly, and certainly the death of your wife qualifies, it is easy to fall into a spiral of negativity. Whether you were inclined towards a negativity bias before or not, it is easy to think that:…

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Emotions, Widower Grief, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyMarch 30, 2026Fred Colby, AuthorStages of grief, healing grief, Behavior of a widower, Coping with death of wife, Grief therapy, Widower memories, widower problems Comments

REINVENTING YOURSELF – TO SURVIVE AND HEAL!

As we said at every meeting of my online grief group, “It will never be the same again!” Nothing shakes up your world and self-identity like the loss of your wife… I felt as if half of my identity had been ripped away. What was left to define me and to serve as my foundation going forward?

At first, the answer was not much.

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Grief Experience, Widower Relationships, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyJanuary 5, 2026Fred Colby, AuthorStages of grief, Behavior of a widower, Coping with death of wife, overcoming widower isolation, Death of Spouse, How to heal after a spouse dies, widower problems, Reinventing yourselfComment

BIG BOYS DO CRY!

Remember Frankie Valli’s hit song, “Big Girls Don’t Cry?” Many of us can probably sing a few verses. Well, like you, I learned the hard way that as widowers, BIG BOYS ALSO CRY! And we often find it to be a shock to our system.

Nothing can be more disconcerting for our sons and daughters than to see their father cry…

Widower Grief Experience, Widower Relationships, Widower blog, Widower, Widower EmotionsFred ColbyOctober 13, 2025Fred Colby, AuthorBehavior of a widower, Coping with death of wife, overcoming widower isolation, Healing Grief, Stages of grief, Blogs for widowers, How to repair broken relationships with a widower, Changes to expect for widower, widower problemsComment

DATING AGAIN?

Once you have decided to date again as a widower, prepare yourself for the shock of entering a dating scene that has changed dramatically since your younger days.

It helps to understand both the risks and benefits of entering the dating scene.

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