Posts tagged anticipatory grief
I SHOULD HAVE DIED FIRST!
I SHOULD HAVE DIED FIRST!

Almost every widower I have met, emailed, or spoken to has at some point said, “I should have died first.” I certainly felt that way after my wife passed in 2015. We both had some health challenges during our lifetime, but mine were the more serious ones and the more recent ones; so, it was a big surprise for both of us when she was diagnosed with uterine cancer and became seriously ill over a one-year period before passing.

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REJECTING FALSE GODS!
REJECTING FALSE GODS!

Whether you believe in God, Allah, Yahweh, or a spiritual universe, you probably have heard the phrase, “Don’t bow down to false gods.” When we are grieving, many false gods may tempt us and drag us into a pit of despair which can be hard to climb out of…

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Surviving Anticipatory Grief
Surviving Anticipatory Grief

If you were a caregiver for your wife for an extended time, there is a good chance that you experienced anticipatory grief. Expectation of imminent death can be both a blessing and a curse. Our aversion to admitting that she will die may cause us to avoid contemplating what the future might bring. And yet, many symptoms of grief may emerge during this pre-death period.

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7 Steps Before, During, and After Her Death
7 Steps Before, During, and After Her Death

You had a romantic wedding, celebrated the birth of children, and got comfortable with your happily-ever-after life. Then tragedy struck and you realized how fragile the human body can be. Suddenly, you faced the prospect of seeing the source of your happily-ever-after life take her last breath…

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