WIDOWERS IN NEW RELATIONSHIPS

Around two years ago, a therapist and doctoral student, who works with Couples in Conflict Management, contacted me with questions she encountered in conversations with women dating widowers. These questions deal with the challenges faced by a woman trying to understand a widower’s ongoing relationship with his deceased wife. Whether the new girlfriend is single (never married), divorced or widowed there are challenges ahead.

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Grief, Widower Relationships, Widower Self HelpFred ColbySeptember 14, 2026Fred Colby, AuthorDating a widower, Changes to expect for widower, Idealization of spouse, healing grief, How a widower can keep their relationships, widower loneliness, Widower memories, Is a widower ready to dateComment

SHARING – HEALING – HELPING

As I say, you heal just a little bit every time you tell your story. The more you do it, the more you heal.

It is incremental steps, not big grand steps….

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Emotions, Widower Grief Experience, Widower Relationships, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyAugust 17, 2026Fred Colby, AuthorBehavior of a widower, Coping with death of wife, healing grief, Grief therapy, How a widower can keep their relationships, Widower memories, Stages of grief, TherapyComment

NEGATIVITY BIAS

When things are going badly, and certainly the death of your wife qualifies, it is easy to fall into a spiral of negativity. Whether you were inclined towards a negativity bias before or not, it is easy to think that:…

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Emotions, Widower Grief, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyMarch 30, 2026Fred Colby, AuthorStages of grief, healing grief, Behavior of a widower, Coping with death of wife, Grief therapy, Widower memories, widower problems Comments

WHY DOES GERRY TURNER CRY SO MUCH?

OK… I confess. My girlfriend enticed me into watching The Golden Bachelor in which 73-year-old Gerry Turner (a widower since 2017) meets, dates, and engages in numerous activities (dancing, 3-wheeling, Pickleball, and more) while trying to determine if one of 22 women “candidates” would be someone to spend the rest of his life with. In the process, Gerry frequently finds himself in surprisingly emotional circumstances… and often cries unashamedly on camera…

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Grief Experience, Widower Relationships, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyOctober 24, 2023Fred Colby, AuthorJerry Turner, Golden Bachelor, Stages of grief, Widower memories, Grief therapy, healing griefComment

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