I SHOULD HAVE DIED FIRST!

Almost every widower I have met, emailed, or spoken to has at some point said, “I should have died first.” I certainly felt that way after my wife passed in 2015. We both had some health challenges during our lifetime, but mine were the more serious ones and the more recent ones; so, it was a big surprise for both of us when she was diagnosed with uterine cancer and became seriously ill over a one-year period before passing.

CAN I STOP GRIEVING?

It is important for widowers in the earliest stages of grief to see that there is hope, and that others have emerged from their grief and are living rewarding full lives again. Only those who have gone before them can provide new widowers with this assurance. Grief Groups can help make this connection…

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Emotions, Widower Grief, Widower Relationships, Widower Self HelpFred ColbySeptember 28, 2026Fred Colby, AuthorBehavior of a widower, overcoming widower isolation, Men’s Grief Groups, Stages of grief, healing grief, widowers asking for help, male widow, Therapy, widower resourcesComment

SHARING – HEALING – HELPING

As I say, you heal just a little bit every time you tell your story. The more you do it, the more you heal.

It is incremental steps, not big grand steps….

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Emotions, Widower Grief Experience, Widower Relationships, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyAugust 17, 2026Fred Colby, AuthorBehavior of a widower, Coping with death of wife, healing grief, Grief therapy, How a widower can keep their relationships, Widower memories, Stages of grief, TherapyComment

CAN AI HELP WITH THERAPY?

What happens when you turn to AI for help with serious mental health challenges? Can it offer meaningful support as you grieve the loss of a partner of 40 years? It may quickly identify your struggles and suggest ways to cope. It can even sound highly empathetic and reassuring. But as vulnerable widowers, we can be influenced in ways that may not serve our best interests.

Widower, Widower blog, Widower Grief Experience, Widower Self Help, Widower supportFred ColbyMay 25, 2026Fred Colby, AuthorBehavior of a widower, overcoming widower isolation, Suicidal thoughts, healing grief, Therapy, AI and TherapyComment

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